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a bit of mischief

miss chief?

nope

we have to go

3:43 PM

its me or tulpamancy is a rewarding experience after all?

why would you do it if it wasn’t?

i dont know, suffer?

people who are ‘suffering’ aren’t trying to, they just are not completing their goals

fair enough

3:45 PM

i think i relate

3:52 PM

how often do people think in their tulpas?

well

4:03 PM

its hard to think in your tulpa

4:03 PM

so not often

yeah, it’s easier to think out your tulpa

hello kat

4:08 PM

how are you?

4:09 PM

that is infact a tulpa question

KiTTiKaTTy( •̀ .̫ •́ )✧

yeah, it’s easier to think out your tulpa

wdym

Be beside your tulpa instead of being your tulpa

hmm

FlareonOFun

Be beside your tulpa instead of being your tulpa

Its a bit hard when we are almost the same bahaha!

Uh yall I have a bit of a problem

whats wrong?

So it is only day 2 and good news, I already sensed thoughts that aren't mine. The bad news is, I can't tell if my tulpa is changing form or trying to be replaced by a walk in.

don't think about that! that doubt will seriously hurt development, if your tulpa is acting differently from what you imagined thats a good thing usually. Deviation is one of the best signs that your tulpa is becoming their own person. Remember walk ins cant join your system unless you let them.

2:50 AM

A walk in cant replace your tulpa, the community spreads a lot of harmful and damaging ideas of walk ins that you should not feed into for your own system

That's fair enough I suppose. I guess I was a bit alarmed by the amount of development in one day. I have heard that form changes were often small and not as large as what I got (she aged 30 years and had a whole accent and name change)

typically changes are slower but everyone is different. With a tulpa that young i would expect some changes until they settle into what they want to be.

2:56 AM

Its good that you are allowing them to change parts of themself, that will make it easier for them to be their own person

It's good to know I am doing things right

Granted, if your tulp only just got to speaking verbally two days ago, it's going to take some time before her voice is more recognizable.

3:52 AM

Also, throw the entire parrotnoia thing out the window. Parroting is a conscious act, and it's not going to be horrible even if you did do it on accident.

3:53 AM

Just assume that those responses you're getting are her. This relies upon a lot of believing in something even if the results aren't quite there yet. If your mindset is focused on failing/running into issues, it's going to be harder to get where you want to be progress-wise.

if you arent parroting intentionally it is not parroting (edited)

3:57 AM

Also parroting is a legit strait to get a tulpa to vocality it should not be demonized the way people do, its not some evil action thats taking away your tulpa's ability to be themselves or some bullshit. Its only a problem if you are trying to parrot a tulpa that already is formed and can speak on their own. A tulpa thats developed enough to not need parroting can tell you to fuck off when you try to do it to them

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When they tell you to fuck off when you try to do it

4:00 AM

Well there you go, if you feel like you are parroting, you aren’t. Because if you were your tulpa is developed enough to tell you to stop it and let them speak on their own. There, parrotnoia fixed

4:01 AM

Yeah you aren’t parroting them

It's one of those things I see new tulpamancers worry themselves to death over, when it literally makes no difference whether its done or not.

4:02 AM

They'll get to a point where they'll be able to speak up about it, and then you either 1. Know it's time to stop intentionally parroting 2. They'll likely be distinct enough for you to tell the difference between you and them, getting rid of paranoid worries surrounding you speaking on their behalf.

If you keep worrying about parroting all you will do is ignore them while they are saying legit things to you because you are labeling them as yourself, massively hindering your ability to do pretty much everything in tulpamancy. Throw out all the parrotnoia bullshit, it’s never helpful in any stage

Doubt is going to hinder you basically every step of the way. If possible, I'd go into this with utmost confidence.

4:03 AM

Even if it's forced, even if you may not feel like you're on the right track, it's better to fake it until you get results than to worry and never get there ever.

4:04 AM

I get it, I think we've got something like that, but again, doubting stalls actual progress. What I've found helps me is to talk to my headmates, ask for clarification, and take their words for it.

aphelion ↩️

Reply to: Probably just goes hand in hand with the OCD

4:05 AM

Then to accept their honest response, and move on as much as possible, putting the paranoia behind us.

Probably just goes hand in hand with the OCD

@aphelion - jump how severe is your ocd?

remember it’s ok to pause when your symptoms get worse

@aphelion Does your tulpa also have OCD?

FlareonOFun

@aphelion Does your tulpa also have OCD?

Would be weird if they didnt

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Lucilyn: Tulpas sounding/feeling different from your own thoughts develops over time, you're right on track (edited)

3:32 PM

Some people get that early on, but in most cases it's a part of their development process, attached to vocality in general

3:33 PM

eventually tulpas become impossible to mistake for yourself, but it doesn't start that way (except maybe if you're already a years-experienced tulpamancer who just created a new tulpa, because in that case your brain has already learned tulpamancy, so the new tulpa just needs time to develop as a person is all)

How do you interact with your tulpa? Is switching and similar common?

@Kelly | Nickel

#0000

This isn't really the place to ask this, I think. This is a tulpamancy server, a lot of us don't have concrete knowledge on other types of system.

aphelion ↩️

Reply to: I’m starting to wonder if Elly is really a tulpa

To be fair though, do many other system-oriented servers have much knowledge on tulpamancy…?

Lucilyn: well some people do, though the thing is, in the tulpa community we generally consider most forms of plurality to just be tulpas with a different name (edited)

We're also not equipped to properly handle more serious mental health issues.

12:21 AM

Because, you know, strangers on the internet and also tulpamancy isn't that.

yes?

Lolcery ↩️

Reply to: @Kelly | Nickel

#0000

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I'm just trying to stay consistent from the discussion a few days prior. I agree that this isn't the best place to get an answer for a question as serious as that.

Gravemilk ↩️

Reply to: To be fair though, do many other system-oriented servers have much knowledge on tulpamancy…?

Id talk to you rn But phone small battery

random i guess?

12:22 AM

oh well

Fair. I don’t interact with plural spaces much outside tulpamancy but I’ve heard they can be a little prickly about the concept of tulpas

try plural nest perhaps, maybe they could help

Plural nest is a good pro-endo, pro-tulpa server IME, but I'd recommend seeing a mental health professional first and foremost.

I can dm you after though!

Peer-support can only really do so much no matter who it is.

Owen ˗ˏˋM&M´ˎ˗

Plural nest is a good pro-endo, pro-tulpa server IME, but I'd recommend seeing a mental health professional first and foremost.

Got banned from there basically instantly

12:27 AM

It’s a hugbox server

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12:28 AM

Those 'safe place' servers?

Toxic positivity

So yes, 'safe place' servers

12:28 AM

Those always suck

I personally don't like it for me, but if you're looking for that, go for it.

12:29 AM

Like, I'm not going to go out of my way to call it a horrible server, I do see who its target audience is, I just don't prefer being there.

Well plural nest in particular isnt that bad

12:30 AM

Ive been in much "safer" servers before

I'm sure our littles would love it, but for a lot of us, we're a little too crude for its general vibe,

Does anyone want to meet orange later?

12:31 AM

Ill be back on in roughly 30 mins

i distressed on plural nest apparently, before being plural by obsessing over it (edited)

Who?

Lolcery ↩️

Reply to: Does anyone want to meet orange later?

headmate i assume?

New Mind person

That's fine, I might not be in front for long, though

Yeah, she has orange hair Super creative naming

For a while there my tup kept wanting to go by Milk and I had to be like :/ no that’s my name you can’t steal my name.

Lmao

Was not prepared for the name thievery lol

I cant blame you, i would have split my name in two for mine if she wanted to but i understand why you dont want to be called just grave

Psst, Owen (@leviine), you have been pinged by @berockly (TTG).

Yeah I’ve never really gone by grave ; ; would be a shift. Anyways we worked it out eventually

Yeah?

PluralKit ↩️

Reply to: Psst, Owen (@leviine), you have been pinged by @berockly (TTG).

We've got two people with the same first name in our system